To: M'Cues Readers

Published: August 7, 2022

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Every issue of Midlife Cues is theme-centered, except for when it’s not.😊 In the course of doing the research for this publication (and happily going down many rabbit holes), I run into stuff I’d like to share with you. But they don’t always align with our official themes here. Hence, The Mixed Bag edition, as this one is!

We’ll be back to regular programming in the next issue.

  • Most of us are willing to forgive if only we’d get the apology we feel we deserve. In her book “Why Won’t You Apologize?”, renowned psychologist Dr. Harriet Lerner writes that the worse the offense, the more difficult it can be to get an apology from the person who wronged us. “Their shame leads to denial and self-deception.” Beyond that, there are other reasons why an apology may not be forthcoming: the person may not be aware they’ve hurt us, or contact is no longer possible. So, how do we move on? How to Forgive Someone Who Isn’t Sorry
  • Television legend Norman Lear turned 100 last week. About this milestone, Lear said, “At the moment, I feel like I could do a second 100.” His longtime friend Mel Brooks said, “Norman has so much to give us, I don’t think 100 is nearly enough.” And Rita Moreno remarked, “What a super addition to the human race he is.” I feel like these are the things I want my friends to say about me when I turn 100. 😊 Norman Lear Turns 100 and Shares the Meaning of Life
  • I don’t know about you, but I can’t remember the last time I went a whole night without waking up at least once. 😢 People wake up in the middle of the night for different reasons. And identifying the cause is the first to toward a full night of sound sleep. Tips for Falling Back Asleep After Waking Up at Night
  • This is probably a few weeks late, but it’s still mid-year, right? Best-selling author and award-winning editor Alexander Franzen offers 10 questions for mid-year reflection. They’re all good, but I particularly like #3, #4, #6, and #7.
  • “Your life is not a list.” It’s easy to isolate and focus on specific areas of our lives to improve, e.g., productivity, physical fitness, or financial health. The risk there is that we lose sight of the bigger picture — our life in its entirety. This article discusses the three central aspects of life management that we should use in combination throughout our lifetime. Life Management: A Holistic Approach to Make the Most of Your Life


“Our ageist consumer culture loses nearly all of its power over you when you decide that you look great the way you are.”

— Marc Middleton, media entrepreneur, Founder of Growing Bolder


What if you find out that the novel you can’t put down was written partly by an AI? Would it matter if you’re enjoying the story? Would you even want to know if a book was partly written by a human and partly by an AI?

It seems that’s where the world is heading. Writers are coming clean. “To keep up with demand and make a decent living, indie novelists are cranking out books more quickly than ever before.” And they are using an artificial intelligence program to help get it done.

One author says: “It’s just words. It’s my story, my characters, my world. I came up with it. So what if a computer wrote them?”

But AI writing is controversial, and those who have embraced it have faced backlash. What say you?


Meet Gen X’er Vivek Chakrabortty

At 46, Vivek says that he’s more patient, less judgmental, less materially ambitious, and overall “more chill” about life in general, as compared to his younger version.

I happen to know Vivek when he was in his 20s. And I agree with his assessment 😊

Here’s a quick profile of Vivek.


That article about forgiveness came to me at the right time in my life. I don’t think I’d have had enough of an open mind (and heart) to consider it 15-20 years ago.

This is just another gift of maturation… the ability to willingly consider a different perspective and not feel so beholden to the one we currently embrace.

Just because we’ve always done it one way — or believed one thing about something — doesn’t mean it’s right or that we have to hold on to it forever.

Here’s to a seriously joyful and easeful week ahead.

Cool beans,
Lou Blaser

P.S. I’d love to hear from you. Please hit reply, tell me how you’re feeling.


A former management consultant and IT leader, Lou Blaser is the editor of Midlife Cues and the host of the Second Breaks podcast. She is also the author of Break Free: The Courage to Reinvent Yourself and Your career. Lou’s work is focused on exploring how to navigate, thrive, and turn midlife into the best phase in our life.

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