“There’s a way to be authentic and open while being intentional about what you want to share. It doesn’t mean you’re hiding parts of yourself. It means you’re showing up in the way that servers you.” — Hillary Rea


  • How to craft the “best story” for your midlife reinvention
  • How to tell the story that you want to tell, with authenticity and vulnerability
  • Why Hillary does not encourage the typical “hero’s journey” format
  • Selecting the “right” stories to include in your overall narrative
  • Why you’d want to have a prepared story in your back pocket


Hillary Rea is the founder of Tell Me A Story, a communication consulting and coaching business that teaches multi-passionate entrepreneurs, mission-driven leaders, and committed change-makers how to use the art of storytelling as a powerful communication tool. 

She is an award-winning storyteller (NYC Moth StorySLAM winner and 2019 Rad Award for Storyteller of the year), has been telling her own stories on stage for 12 years. In addition to running her own business, Hillary is the producer and host of Rashomon, a long-form narrative storytelling podcast where one family tells every side of the same story.

In this episode, Hillary and I talk about how we can compose and tell the story that we want to tell about our life and our midlife reinvention, how to keep vulnerability and authenticity in our “prepared” stories, and how we chose the stories that we want to include in our overall narrative.


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There’s the story you tell yourself, the story other people tell about you and the story you choose to tell other people. And I believe in focusing on that third prong because it can ultimately rewrite the narrative.

You’re curating the moments that you want to support [the story you want to tell] versus going back in time and going through every moment that got you to where you are now.

Everyone has one person in their life who is an amazing storyteller. For everyone else, including myself, it takes work.

It’s not contrived because it’s building a muscle and building a skill that you can add to how you communicate.

I do believe that there’s a way to bring those internal experiences to life in an active way. That’s how we really learn who someone is and how we see each experience as a unique experience.


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